I’ve got a few minutes to kill in between meetings, and rather than spend it killing my eyes on another PowerPoint chart (note to self: get eyes checked), I’ve decided to do some writing.

Today’s Question of the Day is:

What’s the best way to cure a broken heart?

I like this question, mainly because I have no answer for it.  Frankly, I’m not sure I’ve ever had my heart broken.  Sure, it’s been bumped and bruised a bit in its time, but for the most part, I never got so attached that I really couldn’t move on.

I was quite the ice-queen that way.  If things old/tired/boring/hard/touchy/gay/whatever and I didn’t like them anymore, I just walked away.  I was good at that.

Now, this is not to say that I did not occasionally miss someone.  And I do have some sure-fire remedies for that.

• Burn their belongings.  Sounds harsh, but it really does feel good. (Unless they left some really good stuff behind, in which case..
• Pawn their expensive belongings.
• Have a glass of wine.  Or a bottle.  Or, as was tradition in the Bitter House, have a bottle of wine and a tub of seafood salad in the hexagonal hallway.  Make sure to have all accoutrements within an arm’s reach, because you don’t want to be staggering around and getting dizzy after consuming a tub of faux crab.
• Get out of town with your girlfriends.  Girls have this innate ability to soothe each other’s wounds, and it’s a really great time for them to admit what they always hated about your ex, but never said anything about before.
• Remember those photos that you took?  The ones that you SWORE you’d never show anyone?  The ones that were JUST for you?  Heh.  Now, don’t go crazy.. you’ll feel so much better if you have these down the road, too, so don’t go and blow your wad early.
• And lastly, move on.  The best way to meet someone new is to be completely over it.  No one wants a basket-case; be independent and confident.. even if it’s fake to begin with.. and soon everyone will believe it.  You probably will, too.

Okay, I know I’ve left off some personal choices here.  What’s your advice to get over a broken heart?

I saw this on a site awhile back, and I thought, “Oh, that’s cool.  I should add that.”  But I knew I wasn’t quite ready.

But today.. this weekend, in particular.. I’ve had the distinct pleasure of realizing that now .. NOW.. I am ready.

I hereby declare this a Kind Blog.

The more that I make “blog” friends who stumbled upon me accidentally, the more I realize that I really do love doing this.  So it’s only fair to myself and to you guys that I do it with a kind heart and attitude.

It’s incredibly easy to fight over the internet.  I’ve seen people prod and poke in the hopes of beginning more turmoil.  But internet wars are TRULY the special olympics.. doesn’t matter if you win or lose, you’re still retarded.

(Kind Blogs can still be snarky.  I checked on that one.)

Oooh, I liked today’s question:

After all is said and done, can men and women really be just friends?

Now, obviously, there is a lot of context missing to this question. Generally? Yes, I think they can. I would say that, growing up especially, 95% of my friends were male. That’s not to say that from time to time, feelings didn’t arise, but for the most part, we all stayed quite chummy without crossing any boundaries.

But do you mean, perhaps, after a relationship? Because I’m inclined to say no to that one. Granted, all of this comes from my personal experiences and observations, but I’ve never seen a man and a woman end a relationship and still be functional as friends. And I think there’s nothing wrong with that. I think there SHOULD be a definite and final end when a relationship ends, one that allows everyone to move on. Friendship MIGHT develop.. but typically, it should be years down the road.

Of course, some readers of this blog would need to be reminded that there is no general blanket answer to this question. There are exceptions to every rule.

But having said all of that, do you agree or disagree?