So, I’ll finally tell you what was up my crawl yesterday. I wasn’t going to, because it was stupid and it wasn’t meant maliciously, but I REALLY wasn’t going to because it feels like me moping. Which I did. All night.
There is a lady here who I’ve worked with, literally, since I started at this company .. many years ago. She is VERY sweet and I’ve looked up to her for a long time. She works in direct contact with my group and has known about my pregnancy as long as everyone else. Yesterday, I sauntered over to her to see how her day was going, and she said..
.. and I quote ..
“Are you carrying twins in there?”
Well, no. I’ve never once mentioned carrying more than one baby. In fact, I’ve called my (singular) child by name. So I said, “No, I’m not.” And smiled.Â
“Well, they must’ve miscalculated your due date, because honey, you’re HUGE.”
I smiled again, because what in the hell are you supposed to say to that?! Especially when you have to come back with, “No, I’m pretty much just 5 1/2 months along.” Which is almost the same as saying, I’ve still got three and a half more months to get bigger, so hang on to your hats!
I spent a good deal of time last night trying to rationalize it off. Maybe I was so perfectly proportioned BEFORE the baby that I just look out-of-whack. Or maybe that one particular shirt wasn’t flattering. Or HEY! my ankles were swollen yesterday, so maybe I looked heavier in the ankles. But bottom line.. what she said REALLY hurt.
Bryan saw me scratching my HUGE belly last night and asked if he should rub in some lotion for me. I gladly took him up on it, but demanded he turn out the lights. At first he refused, but the fact that I was close to tears probably convinced him I wasn’t budging on the issue.Â
I’m officially adding this to E’s list of list of well-intentioned rude people. When you see a pregnant woman, never comment on her size. She’s more than well aware of how large she is. And Lord knows she can’t control it.
Instead, tell her she looks beautiful. Even if it’s a lie, it’s just what we all need to hear.
People say the stupidest things when you are carrying. It’s always comments about your size or even worse-I was working in a private christian preschool when I was carrying Erin and people always wanted to touch my stomach and “lay hands” on the baby. It drove me up a brick wall. Every woman carrying new life is beautiful-regardless of size and I’m sure your right where you should be. Hang in there and fight urge to tell her off.
Well, you DO look beautiful, there’s no lying involved in that statement. I looked at a couple of the pictures in your “reel,” yesterday, and you look great. I was actually jealous, thinking, “I wish I was as young and pretty as Sarah.” I didn’t even think about your being pregnant in the pic. And the name James Anthony is a classic, YAY l’il Jamanthany! and the woman didn’t mean to be so rude, as you know, I am sure, but everyone is right, DON’T TELL PREGANANT WOMEN THEY LOOK BIG, and I’m sorry about your hormones. They can really suck. But they might be giving Tony a really big package of bits right now. And that will be well worth it!
I was just saying last night how great you looked on Monday night at the meeting. I think you’re doing great, looking great, and you and Tony are healthy. What more can you ask for?
Switch the sugar to salt at the coffee. Just in time for that woman’s next cup.
I thinkyou look beautiful. What would you like me to do to htis woman? I can be quite evil.
Really and truly, I don’t think she meant anything harmful by it. In fact, I brought her a birthday cake and card in this morning, and she cried. I think she just spoke without considering how heavy her words were.
And I have no doubt — although I doubt I know the full scope of JUST how evil — that you can be evil.
)I agree, you look beautiful. I really wish I looked pregnant, I just look fatter.
You should check out this blog http://cpennell.herhangout.com/. Christina is due in October and she has been asked by MANY (almost daily) people if the is carrying twins. She just has a smaller torso and shows way more!
After reading this post today, I went for a much enjoyed mani/pedi where the tiny little Asian woman who was as big as my thigh kept going on and on about how big my stomach is..asking if its twins, then no..there could be triplets in there. Then a girl w/her mom came in and I heard the girl say to her mom as she was looking my way: “Well, it could be twins” OMG people I’m having a baby in like 10 days…throw me a freakin’ bone here.